Everyone feels low sometimes but if these feelings are not going away, or they are making you want to harm yourself or consider suicide, it is time to talk to someone and get help. The way you are feeling is much more common than you think, it is just that people struggle to talk about it. You may feel confused or scared to talk about how you feel and that no-one understands but there are people who can help you.
Try to talk to someone you trust and explain to them how you feel. If this doesn’t help you in the way you need or if you are not able to talk to anyone you know, there are helplines run by suicide prevention and mental health charities where someone will be there to talk to and help you, confidentially 24 hours a day 365 days a year.
Services which can support you NOW
SToRMS does not run a helpline or direct support services but there are many charities offering a range of services to provide support in a way that is right for you. Brief information about some of these and links to their services are below:
- CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably) is a registered charity focusing on supporting men. They run a FREE helpline 0800 58 58 58 from 5pm to midnight, 365 days a year for men who need information or support or you may prefer to try their Webchat.
- The Samaritans run a FREE helpline if you call 116123 available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year so there is always someone there to talk to if you need to. If you don’t feel comfortable talking, text 07725909090 for text chat or email email@example.com. Samaritans also provide face to face services in branches across the UK.
- Papyrus focus on the prevention of young suicide. Papyrus run a FREE HOPEline on 0800 068 41 41, or you can email firstname.lastname@example.org.
- ChildLine is a private and confidential service for children and young people up to the age of 19. You can contact a ChildLine counsellor about anything -no problem is too big or too small. Call FREE on 0800 1111, have a 1-2-1 chat online or send an email.
- Sheffield Students Union run the Nightline service 0114 2228787 available 8pm to 8am during term time with email and instant messaging support outside these times.
- Sheffield Mental Health FREE Helpline 0808 8010440 is available 24/7 for anyone affected by mental health issues. www.sheffieldmentalhealth.co.uk has a searchable directory of services and advice on what to do if you need urgent help.
- Mind’s online community offers peer support from others who have experienced, or are experiencing, what you are going through. A safe place to listen, share and be heard. It is completely anonymous and always available. Find out more and register here or download the Elefriends app for Android and IOS.
Talk to your GP about you are feeling.
- It can be hard to make that first appointment with your GP but remember that they are there to help and that first conversation is the start of your journey to feeling better. It may be tempting to put it off but try to see it through if you possibly can. Docready is a very useful site to help you understand what to expect and make things as easy as possible for you, including helping you put together your own list of things to talk to the GP about.
Can you talk to a counsellor? Your workplace, University or school may offer the help you need. Find out. There are local charities that offer counselling too. Some services available in Sheffield are listed here:
- National Union of Students have access to their own support/counselling. Sheffield Hallam University and University of Sheffield have their own Student Support Services.
- In Sheffield, Interchange and Door 43 offer wellbeing support for age 13 -25 years. Sheffield Mind and Share Psychotherapy (both age 18 years onwards) offer support on a free or subsidised basis.
Community based support (We don’t all need counselling, just to talk)
- Want to talk to other men and just chill? Try Andy’s Man Club (Mondays in Sheffield) or Mankind (Wednesdays in Sheffield).
- Or why not pop down for a “Turn up and play” game of football (separate men’s and women’s teams) with Brunsmeeer Awareness FC Info about more activities can be found at the Sheffield Mental Health Guide Activities page.
- Charity run “Cafes” are also available if chatting with others in that sort of environment is right for you. Please note you may be asked to provide personal details and talk with volunteers about your goals. Spirit of the Rainbow Heron have weekly Late Night cafe, also has a chat room and other events.
Dedicated online peer support and email help is also available for those preferring to write rather than speak, but be careful to only use trusted sites (Links to some trusted sites are listed in these Help Sections).
Looking for suicide advice or apps?
- The Students Against Depression site has good links and advice.
- Below are some quick links to the most common searches:
- Feeling Overwhelmed- Helping You Stay Safe,
- How to cope when life is difficult,
- understanding why you might be feeling suicidal and what you can do about it,
- what to do if you are being bullied online.
- Suicide prevention app and other apps for mood monitoring and anxiety (for other mental health apps also see links below in “Helping Early…” section).
- Stay Alive is a suicide prevention app which provides quick links to national help lines and allows you to create your own, personalised mini safety plan.
Looking After Yourself – Get Well and Stay Well
We can’t always predict or control what life throws at us but we can learn a range of skills to help us respond more flexibly and deal with challenges more effectively.
Below are a few resources explaining how to manage some common issues:
- become more resilient,
- manage pressure
- exam stress.
- mentalhealth.org.uk and Northumberland Tyne and Wear have free downloadable brochures offering practical advice on a range of issues.
A number of different apps are now available to help maintain mental wellbeing. Some require registration and some have to be bought.
List of free apps have been pulled together on the Brighton Mind website.
The Australian Reach Out site has a Toolbox of apps for your brain and body with a quiz that helps you identify your goals.